Know Your Fucking Triggers

What gets under your skin?

What simply does your fucking head in??

Get to know your triggers and then you can utilise them. You can improve relationships, manage finances better, lift better, even have better sex!

So, what is a trigger? A trigger, in the sense of how we are speaking, is something that provokes a reaction in you. Often, we look at triggers with a view to a negative reaction. But that does not always have to be the case. Firstly, we will look at what triggers can look at and how the negatives can come out.

We all have individual triggers and some can be quick fire triggers. In the sense that something happens that infuriates you,then you react. You might lash out verbally, maybe even physically (both need to be more positive reactions).However you react will have an effect on you and the person you lash out at (even if you punch a hole in the wall, it would not be a good things for others to see).The quick fire triggers can often be impulsive and over as quick as they started. If you lash out easily others may describe you as fiery or even passionate (that is being generous). Find what your triggers are, what grinds your gears.

Long term triggers are based on actions that you have not actively, nor positively addressed. They fester away and you try and keep cool about it. Then one day you erupt, an explosion of sorts. Now, unlike the quick fire triggers, the heat from what has happened can last a lot longer (not saying quick fires don’t last a while, this is a general rule of thumb). Where the quick fire can be a lashing out and can be dangerous; the long term trigger can also have serious repurcussions. Sometimes a long term trigger causes massive damage in relationships (again, quick fire can too, but given a long term trigger is based upon actions not managed already, it can causes huge rifts).

For both types of triggers you need good self awareness. If you have a read of my article on resilience you can delve further into what self awareness is and I also have an upcoming ebook on how to improve your self awareness.

Positive triggers a often seen as cues. Something that puts you in a positive mindset. It can be music, it can be a hug from your child, it can be your thought process as you approach the bar for a lift. It is what makes you feel happy, secure and confident. Positive triggers are what we look for in life .Sometimes these can even be misused. Just be mindful of what makes you happy and the effect your happiness has on others.

I know what you’re thinking, you said I can improve my relationships, finances, lifts and even sex life by knowing my triggers but you haven’t told us how! Here it is. Once you’re aware of your triggers and you are self aware, you have a more positive outlook. You don’t make rash decisions that have a negative impact. Your relationships grow, your confidence grows. You deal with setbacks better. You miss a lift in the gym? It doesn’t ruin your session. You have an argument with your partner, you manage your triggers and behave in a much more positive manner. You make better financial decisions, not based on events that have just occurred and splurge on retail therapy. And you’re much more appealing as you appear comfortable in you’re own skin making you more attractive and getting you laid.

I will be writing an article on managing triggers that will support all of this and help you become a more well rounded and successful person.

Big Love

The Bastard